Interview Advice

All y'all youngin's who read my blog... HEED MY WARNING

1. Be sure of your plans.

When I first made plans for this interview, it was for Friday at 1:30. They had to reschedule for this morning... For some reason that it didn't click that it was at a different time. Luckily I woke up at 7 for no particular reason and reread the e-mail to double check. Turns out it was planned for 10:30. I immediately jumped out of bed and rushed to the shower.

2. Always lay your outfit out the night before.

So I blow dried and did all the prep things... Then looked for my outfit. The bottom to my suit was nowhere to be found. I tore my whole apartment apart and found nothing. So I went to my plan B... A suit with flowers on it. It didn't feel right so I quickly changed into a skirt and tights and wore the top of my suit.


3. Always leave two hours before your interview if you don't know exactly where you are going.

I did this for traffic reasons... Just in case. Luckily, there was no traffic... At all! I arrived with an hour and a half to spare. So I pull up to the entrance of the location I applied to--wrong entrance. They said I just had to follow the road and couldn't miss it. The road came to an end and I saw no entrance. I drove back and forth till I pulled over to ask a different entrance where the correct entrance was. Turns out I had to take two rights after the road ends. So I get to the entrance and at this point I'm like

With only 45 minutes to spare. I had to get a guest pass, so I park my car and walk into a reasonable line. No problem. I ask if the building I was looking for was easy to find... They say yes. Good news! I planned to do my makeup in my spare time. So I get my pass and I finally drive on location. Not only can I not find the building but I can't make sense of the number system. I felt like this:

 

 

 

So I look at the clock and next thing I knew I had 12 minutes till my interview. I talked to the closest person I could find and I was like:

 

 

Luckily I was extremely close to the building. So I look for parking... None! NONE! So... I sort of made a spot behind other people who clearly also made some impromptu spots. 8 minutes till the interview I changed shoes and ran toward the building. I went to the general location of the office, and I couldn't find anyone so I was like:

I soon found a very nice woman who showed me where to go. At this point my phone was off but I'm pretty sure I made it... Which brings me to my next word of advice.

4. Shake off whatever happened prior to you being there because it's your time to make it or break it!

I'm not going to say where this place is, because I don't want to jinx it. Keep your fingers crossed for me because the place I applied to seems really nice... Just a really great atmosphere! I hope I hope I hope!

Lots of love,
Samantha the Fatulous

Rumor Has It

Everybody talks about everybody... It's our society. I'm the first to say I like to know what's going on in my friend's lives. Usually in this case, it's a positive conversation, like this:

"Did you hear Kristen is pregnant?"
"No, but that's so exciting!"

Or when you get in a fight with someone, you're going to vent. That makes sense, you can't get mad at someone for venting as long as the situation is eventually resolved.

There are the people you are cordial with because you have to be. It's clear you don't see eye to eye but there's respect there. But behind closed doors, you're going to vent.

There are the people you just don't get along with.. Again, you vent... But it can't prevent your day to day life or theirs. The stories are good though!

Then there is the last group... The group that pretends to like you then talks poorly about you. I don't understand this group. If I think you like me, you act like you are excited to see me, then why do I keep hearing rumors?

It's frustrating that I genuinely try to be nice to everyone. I have to accept that not everyone is going to like me. But what am I to do now? Every time I hear a rumor it's harder to pretend I don't know. It's hard to accept these excited greetings.

No one likes to be talked about. Sometimes you gotta shake it off. Sometimes you just gotta keep on keeping on.

Best,

 

Samantha the Fatulous

Why Everyone Should Go To A Drag Show

Fitchburg State has a lot of issues. It's not the safest neighborhood... The administration makes some questionable decisions that do not benefit the students. But student life... That's one of the biggest reasons to go to Fitchburg. There's so many events that are student hosted. Like, every night there are events worth going to. There's one event though... It's bigger than the annual concert... Bigger than the raves, the comedy nights, the casino nights... That's Fitchburg State University's Drag Show. You really can't miss it. It's an open and free environment that everyone can be themselves. That, to me, makes a good atmosphere.

1. The talent

How creative do you have to be to rework these classic songs in a hilarious and interesting way. Plus, I can't walk in heels, nevermind dance in them so kudos to the heel dancing community, I suck.















2. The fashion

Everything is so glamorous. The shoes, the costumes, the hair, the makeup. Some of the boobs even rivaled my own! There's clever costume changes... Beautiful hair... I just love the looks!











3. What's on the inside

The guts to be who you want to be in a society that makes up rules that really don't matter. The world Is beautiful because of our differences. Not only that but guys that you go to college with actually sign up to get dressed up for the crowd. It's not even a question about being worried of being bullied after because it's not like that. The people that go up are awesome and get nothing but love and support.








4.The Fund Raising

All ticket proceeds go to a local charity every year. Also, this is the location for pro-equality which is so important. With over 1000 tickets sold-- $10 for non students and $5 for students I think... Just imagine the money they raised for a local charity. A bonus-- one of the dancers sold her left tit for $80. Signed and kissed.










5. The Fun

Dancing on tables, breaking chairs, some extra special attention... You're going to have a good time. There's jokes, lip syncing... REAL SINGING! It's all magical.

So what I'm saying is... if you didn't go last night you missed out. GO NEXT YEAR! Or look for local opportunities. You will love it. One more picture:
















Best,
Samantha the Fatulous

Listening to a Skipping Track

I like to talk. I think we all know I like to talk.

I've also been through a lot, which makes me particularly good at understanding other's pain. I think it's stamped on my forehead sometimes because people I don't even know particularly well have always been quite forthcoming.

For as long as I can remember, I've given advice. Today, I'm giving advice about giving advice.

It's difficult, it's complex.

A lot of times, you may find that the receiver of your advice talks about the same problem with no solution... And probably, they go back to the thing that gave them pain in the first place.

It's frustrating. It's emotionally taxing on the advice giver because you care.

The thing is, just because you give advice, doesn't mean the listener is obligated to take it.

You don't truly know what it's like to be in their shoes even if the situation is similar. They can't always see your perspective because things aren't always as simple as it sounds.

It took me a long time to accept this.

When I was young, a lot of bad things happened between my parents. My father was abusive and we stayed. He did something worth going to jail for again... This time for four years. My mother bailed him out and he left us.

Soon after my mother began dating someone new. 12 years later... They are finally openly out as a couple. But it was after years of seeing her smiling like a school girl one week, and crying like her world was ending the next. Do you know what that is like? To watch your mother cry for twelve years? I begged her to move on. I gave her reasons in a nice way. I gave her reasons in a harsh way. At the end of the day it didn't matter.

You are only in control of yourself. You need to do what is best for you. There is only so much you can do for someone, then you have to let it go. We're all moving the same direction at different speeds. We're like leaves in a current, and sometimes people just get caught up.

So what do you do? Keep calm, try your best to be a good friend. Hope they find their way. Be supportive if they make a change. And dear bob don't give advice when you're angry. That helps no one. If eventually, it all becomes too much, you have to do what is best for your life. But when you do that, remember there is a person who is still hurting, so find your balance or separation from the situation.

Like I said, complicated. Just try your best every day.

Lots of love,
Samantha the Fatulous

ps sorry for the hiatus... I'm trying really hard to find a job. That's what I do every second of every day... With the exception of when my friends pry me from my computer.